Online Trauma Therapy in New Jersey
Therapy for adults who know their past is living in their present
We know that trauma comes in many forms. Sometimes it’s a single experience and sometimes it’s years of bullying, physical abuse, or living with caretakers who weren’t able to meet your emotional needs. When traumatic moments happen, you unconsciously make meaning of those experiences.
You may have learned that you need to take care of an adult’s feelings in order to keep yourself safe. You may have learned to expect the worst because whenever good things happened, they were followed by chaos and hurt. You may have learned that connection only comes your way when you pleased others in your life and that being yourself meant you’d be all alone. Those meaning making moments are still alive and well in you when you’ve suffered from unprocessed trauma.
Our trauma work focuses on fleshing out the very meanings you made in the face of traumatic experiences so that they can be unlearned and dissolved at the root.
What is Trauma?
Complex-PTSD is a condition that is born out of long-term and often, repeated traumatic experiences that an adult or child is unable to escape. Think childhood abuse and neglect, bullying, involvement in an abusive relationship, or being held captive as a prisoner of war.
What is Complex-PTSD?
Approaches to Trauma
Who is Online Trauma Therapy in New Jersey For?
Adults in New Jersey can benefit from this work to address the following challenges:
Experiences from your past are dictating your present
You notice yourself avoiding anything that you associate with the traumatic experience(s)
You notice you fight, flight, freeze, or fawn in response to certain people, places, circumstances, sounds, smells, etc.
You’ve tried to reflect on your past but you become either too overwhelmed or you shut down
You hold onto feelings that you are shameful, unworthy of love, or that you’re never enough
You’re holding onto anger and rage that you’re afraid to feel
What Trauma Therapy with me Looks Like
Typically, all of my clients begin by scheduling a free 15-minute consultation. I don’t require that folks tell me what happened because that can be too much too soon. But we’ll talk about how the trauma is manifesting in the present and whether the approaches that I’m trained in feel like a good fit. From there, we decide on frequency of sessions. My intention is to have a consistent and reliable day and time for each of my clients to meet with me.
My priority is to offer a calm and attuned presence for all my clients from the very first meeting. As we come to understand what meaning you made of yourself and the world in response to trauma, we then begin the process of fundamentally unlearning those meanings and bringing your brain and body into the present. As with all my clients, trauma work demands that we don’t push past feelings of fear or hesitation. It’s all met with patience and compassion. Some sessions may include a mixture of techniques for all of the approaches I’m trained in while other clients may feel comfortable with one specifically.
As the trauma work progresses, clients notice that they feel less alone. They can meet the part(s) of themselves that survived the trauma with warmth, curiosity, and compassion. They are able to offer parts of themselves what they never got but really needed and ultimately look back on the painful past with a sense of neutrality. New meaning gets made and the suffering is resolved.